The Way I See It Advice.

Honestly, like Neil Sedaka said, BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO. And I really can’t advise you on how to get over someone because it’s just something you have to get through. Try by putting them out of your life. It’s not immature to do that, it’s smart. Don’t drive yourself crazy…get off their facebook, delete their number, don’t try to think up ways to get them to talk to you. If you’re really trying to get over him/her for real, try to spend time with people that love and care about you. Keep busy, think positively. That’s all you really can do…

I can’t really advise you on this. If you’re “prude”, maybe you’re just not ready to do anything sexual. And that’s fine. You don’t have to. If you feel that you are ready, just nervous…that’s natural. Everyone feels that way the first time around. You just have to work up the confidence.

I’m sorry. Feeling unappreciated is one of the worst feelings out there. If you’re feeling like you’ve been ill-treated by people you care about then you should confront them about it. Don’t let them get away with it. Not saying something almost makes it your own fault. 

As I mentioned in a previous post, I was dating a guy off and on from the end of 8th grade til midway through Junior year. We had kind of a different relationship as well, and he left to go to OU when I was a Junior. I think one of the things that tore us apart, among some other things, was that we focussed way too much on what was going to happen to us rather than what was happening. We talked about it too much, worried about it too much, and eventually we said we were gonna go with the flow, but some issues developed because of broken promises we both made from talking about it so much and it all just led to dissapointment on both ends. We were both trying to control a situation that was out of our hands. I really think that you and your boyfriend should just wait and see what happens. Enjoy the time you have right now and don’t think about the end point. If you talk about it, it might put pressure on your relationship without you even realizing it.

If it gets to the point where you feel like that pressure is being put on your relationship anyway from a lack of talking about it, I definitely think you should talk it out then. But talking about it too much before anything happens really could end up hurting you. 

When I was a Junior, my boyfriend of on and off for 3 years went to college. I was really nervous and upset about the whole thing too but I just decided to wait and see what happened. Even though my worrying ended up tearing us apart, you really can’t predict what’s going to happen, and you can’t spend your time worrying about breaking up. If you two really care about each other, you will make it work. And you know what, even if you break up along the way, what’s meant to be will happen. Sometimes it’s better to spend some time apart to realize what you really want. 

Don’t feel weird about that. If he makes the effort to communicate with you every day then he obviously has some interest. I think you definitely should initiate hanging out. It will establish your maturity and confidence and also show him that you are interested. Then maybe he will start acting a little bit more obvious about how he feels about you. 

Not an uncommon fear. I would just brush your teeth regularly, mouth wash and chew gum. The basics I guess you could say. 

As far as teaching you how to kiss, I feel like it’s something that you just have to teach yourself as you go. The first time is a little uncomfortable and awkward at first but as it goes on you just kind of adjust and get the hang of it. I wish I could be of more help but I don’t really know how to coach you on kissing haha! I kiss a person differently every time based on their own kissing style.  You just have to adjust to each other and see what works for the both of you. 

Do nothing except for what makes you feel comfortable. I had my first “kiss” when I was in 5th grade, it was a little peck on the lips, he may have even missed or gotten my cheek or something, I can hardly remember. I never made out with anyone until I was 14, and I was the last of my friends to do that. I know how it feels to be the last person to have a real kiss with someone but in reality it’s not that important. You’re going to kiss a lot of people in your life (I mean, don’t go too overboard haha) but it’s not important who kisses who and who hasn’t kissed anyone, yadda yadda. I would just ignore what the people are saying the best you can because I assure you that the kiss will come. You have a long life ahead of you and just because you may be a late bloomer in the kissing department (which I don’t even think 14 is a late age, it’s young or maybe right on track), doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you or that you deserve to be made fun of. Everyone moves at their own pace, don’t go out looking to kiss someone just to say you have kissed someone. Wait for it to just naturally happen! I swear it will!

Yes I think you should talk to him for sure. Ask him what his deal is and explain to him how you feel. Like I’ve said in the last two posts I’ve posted, COMMUNICATION is key. Don’t let someone string you along. 

Well, if he isn’t dropping any hints about liking you then I would try to be a little bit more open with your feelings towards him and see how he responds to them. If he responds in a positive way that makes you think he may feel the same, you could just up your flirting with him and see where that leads. If he doesn’t respond well to it or respond to it at all, then I say either move on from it or just ask him straight up how he feels. I’m just a big believer in communication. I don’t like to play the guessing game with people.